Should Your Elderly Parents Move in With You?
There is
a re-emerging trend of older parents moving in with their adult children for
reasons such as health issues, economic hardship, and loneliness. If everyone
in your household agrees that moving your parents into the family homestead is
a good idea, here are some recommendations from Elderwerks Educational
Services:
1.
Independence
Your
parents need their independence, so have an in-depth discussion ahead of time
about their desires, activities they’d like to continue doing, and the type of
support services they may need. If they still drive and are active, they will
manage their daily lives themselves. If they have any medical issues, physical
limitations, or cognitive impairment, you may be relied upon to help with their
activities of daily living, transportation, meals, and more.
2. Inclusion
Inclusion
in the community is important, as many seniors stay home and become depressed
from lack of socialization. Introduce them to local organizations that offer
interaction with other like-minded seniors, such as a community center, senior
center, recreational center, park district, fitness facility, veterans’ group,
and your neighbors. They can socialize and build new friendships while
remaining close to home.
3.
Purpose
Being
part of the family also means being included and having a purpose, such as
helping with basic chores around the house if they’re able. Discuss everyone’s
role in the household and agree on household tasks. Sometimes a power struggle
between family members can emerge and create stress. Make sure you have clear
communication regarding responsibilities and expectations.
If
you and your spouse are unable to have your parents live with you for a variety
of reasons, be honest with your parents early on. Let them know that while you
love them both dearly, moving into a local senior community might be better for
them where there is a built-in support system, safety, security, and their own
space.